What I “really” look like, a perfectly healthy body in more and less flattering photos

  I’m a beautiful woman.  Sorry I’m not sorry if that is off-putting.  I believe I am a beautiful woman and that is important to me.  I don’t think that is vain.  It has nothing to do with how I look compared to other women, how many dudes would want to have sex with me [...]

So apparently I’m an emotional eater

Unless you’ve been living under a rock where Oprah’s show topics don’t come into your consciousness, you’ve heard the term “emotional eating.”  It, however, has never been a concept that resonated with me and my behavior.  The idea of being “hungry” but not for food, also didn’t resonate.  My thinking was more, “I’m hungry… for [...]

Start where you are at. A lesson I’m re-learning.

I have never needed to be the best.  I remember taking debate in high school and doing really well.  My partner and I won novice state.  I enjoyed it.  But I hated that others in my class would get overly excited when they found evidence against my case.  When during the in class tournament it was [...]

The trouble with hating the media (women and body bashing)

Hopefully it isn’t shocking news to you that images of women in the media are overwhelmingly edited.  Thighs are slimmed.  Muscles removed.  Muscles added (depending on the publication).  Cellulite taken away.  It’s all very smoke and mirrors.  Photoshop can do amazing things and it is used to not only enhance photos but to “enhance” the [...]

How I manage depression with exercise.

I have a history of depression.  We’ll go ahead and add this to the list of things I disclose here that while I’m not at all ashamed of it, I wouldn’t want to walk around with a sign around my neck announcing it either.  That said, I feel like a lot of what I talk [...]

Me, the scale, and how I said “screw it.”

When I started this “journey” my goal was to teach my child by example how to live a healthy life and have a positive relationship with my body.  I talk a lot about confidence and being less judgmental about other women’s bodies (as that is an issue with your own confidence, period.)  But that doesn’t mean that [...]

Finding your happy weight

Most women I come across have a weight ideal somewhere between 120 and 150 depending on their body type and height.  Some just want to feel healthy and strong.  Some want muscle definition.  Some want to be soft with a flat stomach.  But regardless of your aesthetic goals you have to be realistic about what [...]

6 ways you are already screwing up your new resolutions.

  Ok, so sometimes I have harsh titles.  But it makes you fucking look.  Perhaps you are not one of these people.  If you are I am not mocking you or hoping your resolutions fail.  To the contrary we are less than a week into the new year, so hopefully if you are making any [...]

A recovering anorexic responds to model bashing

Note from Mama: I didn’t write about the Victoria’s Secret models because I am solely an advocate for thinness and thin people.  I wrote about it because I’m an advocate for women (small, medium, large, extra juicy, all of your beautiful asses) loving themselves and respecting each other.  I took on Rush Limbaugh (and the [...]

schedYOUal

Like what I did there? I think I’m clever. Recently I asked on facebook what you all struggle with and overwhelmingly the response was about finding the time to do anything for yourself.  From exercise to packing a lunch there is just no time after you do everything else. It is hard.  It’s hard to [...]