What I “really” look like, a perfectly healthy body in more and less flattering photos
Im a beautiful woman. Sorry Im not sorry if that is off-putting. I believe I am a beautiful woman and that is important to me. I dont think that is vain. It has nothing to do with how I look compared to other women, how many dudes would want to have sex with me or how many people tell me Im hot. I dont measure myself against anyone else. I…read more
So apparently I’m an emotional eater
Unless youve been living under a rock where Oprahs show topics dont come into your consciousness, youve heard the term emotional eating. It, however, has never been a concept that resonated with me and my behavior. The idea of being hungry but not for food, also didnt resonate. My thinking was more, Im hungry for food so I eat and Apparently Im more hungry than other people. Also, So what…read more
Start where you are at. A lesson I’m re-learning.
I have never needed to be the best. I remember taking debate in high school and doing really well. My partner and I won novice state. I enjoyed it. But I hated that others in my class would get overly excited when they found evidence against my case. When during the in class tournamentit was epic if someone beat us. I enjoy preparing and even competing. But I dont enjoy…read more
The trouble with hating the media (women and body bashing)
Hopefully it isnt shocking news to you that images of women in the media are overwhelmingly edited. Thighs are slimmed. Muscles removed. Muscles added (depending on the publication). Cellulite taken away. Its all very smoke and mirrors. Photoshop can do amazing things and it is used to not only enhance photos but to enhance the appearance of a woman. As a result of this women (and men) come to have…read more
How I manage depression with exercise.
I have a history of depression. Well go ahead and add this to the list of things I disclose here that while Im not at all ashamed of it, I wouldnt want to walk around with a sign around my neck announcing it either. That said, I feel like a lot of what I talk about here (self-esteem, body shaming, internal mantras etc) are often not discussed in a real…read more
Me, the scale, and how I said “screw it.”
When I started this journey my goal was to teach my child by example how to live a healthy life and have a positive relationship with my body. I talk a lot about confidence and being lessjudgmentalabout other womens bodies (as that is an issue with your own confidence, period.) But that doesnt mean that my demons dont creep up. I have those moments, sitting on the couch at the…read more
Finding your happy weight
Most women I come across have a weight ideal somewhere between 120 and 150 depending on their body type and height. Some just want to feel healthy and strong. Some want muscle definition. Some want to be soft with a flat stomach. But regardless of your aesthetic goals you have to be realistic about what you are willing to do to get there. Sure it would be awesome to keep…read more
6 ways you are already screwing up your new resolutions.
Ok, so sometimes I have harsh titles. But it makes you fucking look. Perhaps you are not one of these people. If you are I am not mocking you or hoping your resolutions fail. To the contrary we are less than a week into the new year, so hopefully if you are making any of these mistakes you can fix it NOW! Its way to early to throw in the…read more
A recovering anorexic responds to model bashing
Note from Mama: I didnt write about the Victorias Secret models because I am solely an advocate for thinness and thin people. I wrote about it because Im an advocate for women (small, medium, large, extra juicy, all of your beautiful asses) loving themselves and respecting each other. I took on Rush Limbaugh (and the media) when he spoke about Michelle Obamas body here. I write about loving your imperfections….read more
Like what I did there? I think Im clever. Recently I asked on facebook what you all struggle with and overwhelmingly the response was about finding the time to do anything for yourself. From exercise to packing a lunch there is just no time after you do everything else. It is hard. Its hard to change your behaviors. Especially when those behaviors are centered around the idea that you must…read more